The word seduction is powerful. It conjures up images of passion and intimacy–unfortunately, mostly sinful relationships outside of marriage. I’m advocating that husbands and wives should continuously seduce their spouse… and their spouse alone.
I thought it would be helpful to identify some of the fastest ways to kill your marriage and, conversely, to provide alternative approaches that can help your relationship bloom eternally.
When you’re struggling emotionally with forgiveness, look beyond the pain you feel to understanding why the other person has done wrong. This kind of thinking is revolutionary, perhaps even intimidating, because it forces us to look at ourselves in a more critical light in a time when we want to be comforted.
But pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone may be the only way to actually make a positive difference in our lives.
I remember telling my wife, in a sweet way, that I didn’t like the way she cooked our dinner when we first got married. I’m smiling now at the memory and even then it was something we could both laugh off. My comment wasn’t intended as an insult but it was in keeping with our “no secrets” policy.
I have been blessed to be happily married for over a decade but I realize that there are millions of couples who have not enjoyed the benefits of a lasting, faithful marriage. In my historical christian fiction novel Twiceborn I examine the effects of infidelity in married couples but over the next three posts I would like to identify compelling causes for infidelity on the part of men and strategies that women can use to fight back.