Can you think of the last time you heard a stranger whistling as he/she walked down the road? Do neighbors give you a genuine smile when they see you? It seems to me that we’ve become a lot less happy as a society–and that includes kids.
You can call it testosterone, chauvinism or whatever you’d like, but the reality is that men long to be the hero to the women in their life. Without an outlet for this natural urge a man will become dissatisfied. This dissatisfaction may express itself in a variety of ways, all of which can hurt a relationship.
How you’ve failed isn’t the most important thing.
It is your response to defeat that determines your true greatness.
I remember my eight-year-old daughter looking outside with slumped shoulders and saying “Aw, now we can’t have our kids day.” But just at that moment, her four-year-old brother jumped up and said:
“Don’t worry guys, God can stop the rain!”
When you’re struggling emotionally with forgiveness, look beyond the pain you feel to understanding why the other person has done wrong. This kind of thinking is revolutionary, perhaps even intimidating, because it forces us to look at ourselves in a more critical light in a time when we want to be comforted.
But pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone may be the only way to actually make a positive difference in our lives.
I remember telling my wife, in a sweet way, that I didn’t like the way she cooked our dinner when we first got married. I’m smiling now at the memory and even then it was something we could both laugh off. My comment wasn’t intended as an insult but it was in keeping with our “no secrets” policy.
It is so important for both husband and wife to recognize that they are one unit. This simple concept, when applied to all that we do and say, has the power to revolutionize your marriage.
Are you a lion or a mouse?
You’re probably thinking something along the lines of “that’s a strange question.” And you’re right. But it’s one that I hope will get you thinking (and…keep you reading!)