Often, when doing marriage counseling, my wife and I encounter a husband or wife who wants to improve their relationship but lacks the support of the other spouse. It’s critical that both husband and wife commit to making positive changes in their relationship.
If your spouse isn’t dedicated to committing, it’s probably because he or she doesn’t believe that anything is actually going to happen. Disillusionment is like cyanide in a marriage—it’s toxic.
Work first on convincing your spouse that your relationship can and will change for the better. Do you believe that yourself? It all comes down to faith. Be excited and optimistic. It may take time, but that positive approach will ultimately influence your own spouse’s thinking, winning him or her to your side.