Generally speaking, we men have an aggressive streak. It’s in our nature, that can be traced all the way back to our first father, Adam. Really, we were born to lead but, because of our fallen world, positive leadership often becomes a warped sense of dominance that gets expressed as anger whenever things (or people) don’t operate the way we think they should.
Think about it: you feel like smashing the computer because it… works perfectly? No, you want to throw it out the window because it’s been 10 minutes since you clicked send and your email is still there!
In a society that doesn’t allow us to express our innate dominance, some men become prisoners of their emotions—anger and frustration to name a few.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
- Pray. Anger is a spiritual thing that can’t be controlled by willpower alone. Seek God’s Spirit and strength to master yourself.
- Focus your energy. Instead of lashing out with your fists, choose to do something physically productive, like going for a run or building something. Get your mind off the problem for a while and you’ll be better equipped to face it later.
- Don’t procrastinate. Waiting to long to face a situation can often make it immeasurably worse. Calm down and then confront the issue but be sure that you’re ready to listen as well as talk.
- Lastly, remember you’ve angered/ hurt others too. If not your parents then perhaps a sibling. Focus on the lessons you learned from those experiences and take a positive approach to whatever you’re facing now.
Without a doubt, there’s much more that could be said about this topic. But I hope the above empowers men to take another step into ruling anger and living inspired.